It was hard to think of anything other than the pandemic as we went about our “new normal” lives. Then our nation erupted again at the wrongful murder of yet another human being who happened to be born with a black skin. Murder by a police officer, carrying a badge and a gun, in the clear light of day and acting as though no rules of the civilized world applied to him. Thomas Friedman, writing in the New York Times, says, sadly, we have broken our world. In Florida we are used to cleaning up after hurricanes and quickly moving on. These storms are far from over. More of us are struggling with food and housing insecurity than at any time since the Great Depression. I find myself more grateful every day for my good fortune and thinking more about what I can do to help others. Let’s be kind and offer grace to everyone. Life and divorce are stressful enough—let’s lead with empathy and understanding in all our encounters. Friedman suggests we follow the Golden Rule: “Do not do to others what we would not want done to ourselves.” In Jewish tradition there is a saying: Because we cannot complete the work of perfecting the world, does not mean we are free to desist from trying. Any little thing we can do helps. And the not-so-little thing we can do in our work is offer kinder, gentler Collaborative divorce.
Elaine T. Silver