Divorce is difficult for the entire family, and can be especially challenging when co-parents disagree on child-rearing, school options, and the myriad choices that parents encounter when raising children. Disputes and arguments over decisions may disrupt the child’s development and the parents’ ability to move on with their lives in a healthy manner. Co-parent coaching can help the family overcome disagreements and assimilate into a new post-divorce structure in a healthier, more constructive way. Even after the divorce has been finalized, seeking a co-parent coach to continue counseling can help foster healthy relationships.
Building a Foundation with Co-Parent Coaching
The main goal of co-parent coaching is healthy families. During the process of building a foundation of skills for strong co-parenting, we discover the best way to set healthy boundaries, communication styles, financial planning, and other aspects that define a healthy co-parenting system. There is no formula for this – it is by nature a fluid process that will be different for each family. Remaining child-centric is one way to achieve balance and avoid the pitfalls of blaming, competition, arguments, and other disruptive behaviors. Each approach will differ according to the needs of the co-parents, with some requiring further support down the road while others are sufficiently prepared to face the challenges of co-parenting on their own.
Co-Parent Coaching Timeline
Co-parent coaching can extend for months or even years after the divorce is finalized. Competent co-parenting skills may not be achieved within the timeframe of the divorce, so a coach could be used for a period of time following the resolution. This flexible timeline allows for individual families’ differences in coping and offers parents the peace of mind of continued support. Sometimes co-parents just cannot reach an agreement, and rather than escalate the conflict, they should turn to a co-parent coach to help mediate the dispute. This is indicative of the level of trust that a coach can build by helping co-parents resolve issues during and after the divorce. By seeking a co-parent coach to continue counseling after the divorce is over, parents are ensuring that children are protected from the negative impacts of divorce long after the divorce is over.
Couples select collaborative divorce for a non-adversarial dispute resolution. Adding the benefits of co-parent coaching may also promote a strong, healthy relationship moving toward a common goal after the hardship of divorce.