One of the most compelling aspects of collaborative divorce is that the ultimate goal is for both parties to win. The courtroom, on the other hand, imposes a division – division is the very nature of the space, the proceedings, the results. In this atmosphere a divorce is a fight with only one victor, the judge controls the process and decides the outcome. Collaborative divorce takes a very different approach – combining mutual respect, openness, and a willing to cooperate to achieve balance, communication, and to create a foundation for a healthier relationship in the future, especially where children are involved.
Communication in Collaborative Divorce
In collaborative divorce, the spouses communicate directly, rather than through lawyers across a sterile courtroom. There is a very human element to this, and this approach lays the groundwork for healthier future communication. The Collaborative Team is present to assist the spouses in communication as well as educate about communication techniques. The entire process is aimed at effective communication, while courtroom litigation is designed only to decide who is the winner and who is the loser.
Cost and Timing of Collaborative Divorce
The costs of collaborative divorce are usually easier to manage than litigation. The court process is unpredictable; delays can set back the final decision and costs can compound quickly, especially if the spouses are in disagreement about many items. The judge decides the timeline so spouses are at the mercy of the court. In contrast, collaborative divorce centers on cooperation and reaching common grounds, which often takes less time, is a more efficient use of resources, and timing is controlled by the spouses.
Privacy in Collaborative Divorce
Another benefit of collaborative divorce is the fact that it remains confidential. While courtrooms are a space open to the public at any moment, collaborative divorce takes place privately, behind closed doors. This offers a safer, more comfortable space for communication and cooperation.
The Collaborative Divorce process is designed to assist in building healthy relationships and communication. Each part of Collaborative Divorce exists symbiotically with the others, providing options for non-adversarial dispute resolution that promote strong, healthy families moving toward a common goal after the hardship of divorce. Learn more about this fascinating process in our articles about divorce options and collaborative law.